I always thought life was about force. Effort. Discipline.

That if I pushed myself hard enough, through sheer will, I could have the experience of life I always wanted.

That if I meditated hours every day, I’d finally achieve lasting inner peace.

That if I underwent years of therapeutic practices and healing modalities, I’d finally be free of my lifelong relationship attachment and sexual issues.

That if I painstakingly followed the right health regimens every hour of every day, I’d finally be free from my debilitating chronic health issues.

That if I woke up before dawn and followed a strict 3 hour morning routine, I’d finally achieve consistent fulfillment and invigoration.

And I was consistent AF.

I stuck to every routine, every regimen, every habit, with a relentless determination to get what I wanted or die trying.

But no matter how much damn effort I put in…it was never enough.

Relying on signs from the universe, angels/guides, gurus, astrology readings, etc to make decisions is placing your trust OUTSIDE of yourself.

Same with relying on logic, analysis, rules, research, best practices, Yelp reviews, Tim Ferris, etc.

Nothing wrong with using any of these tools as additional input, as supplementary information.

But as the entire compass for navigating your life??

Nah fam 😏

Only YOU can truly know what’s right for you.

If your relationship isn’t feeling alive; if it’s feeling stuck or stagnant; if you’re constantly wondering if you’d be happier with someone else…

…then your relationship is lacking tension (the right kind of tension).

Tension that comes from the both of you fully owning the truth of yourselves with each other. Without sanding off the edges.

Tension that comes from a relationship constantly growing, evolving, and pushing up against it’s former bounds…then bursting straight through to richer, more intimate territory.

Following your energy/aliveness/truth doesn’t LOOK any particular way.

It doesn’t look like extravagant trips to Bali. Or jumping out of planes. Or selling all your possessions to live in a cabin.

It CAN look like those things. But it can also look like: moving back home with your parents. Choosing a funny looking jar of salsa at the grocery store. Watching TV. Getting your eyebrows done.

Following your energy is never about what it looks like on the surface.

It’s entirely about the orientation behind it. WHERE it’s coming from.

Follow what feels good.

Not what looks good. Not what sounds good. Not what might-if-I-do-this-for-20-more-years-feel-good.

And not just surface-level pleasures or discomforts. I’m talking about a deeper “feeling good” underneath all of that.

It sounds too simple to be helpful. But that’s because we’ve spent a lifetime only listening to our mind, which thinks life needs to be so damn complicated.

Nature doesn’t think that’s too simple.

In fact, that’s how this insanely complex ecosystem with billions of moving parts conducts itself with such grace and ease.

Everything from the birds to the bees are just following what feels good (and pulling away from what feels bad).

Be like nature. Or more accurately, stop pretending you AREN’T nature. And follow what feels good.